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Lesson 10: What evidence-based steps can we take to become happier?What evidence-based steps can we take to become happier?
In this wireless philosophy video, Laurie Santos (Yale University, The Happiness Lab podcast) introduces a number of exercises we can practice to increase our happiness, according to empirical research. Among these practices are gratitude exercises, controlling our social reference points, and adopting a growth mindset.
View our happiness learning module and other videos in this series here:
https://www.wi-phi.com/modules/happy/. Created by Gaurav Vazirani.
Video transcript
Hi, I’m Dr. Laurie Santos, professor of psychology and
cognitive science at Yale University, and in this video I’ll discuss
several things we can do to increase our happiness,
according to empirical research. Like most of us, Maya believes
that the key to happiness is to better the material
conditions of her life. Despite her successes, though,
Maya still isn’t very happy. Turning to empirical research for guidance, Maya was initially disheartened
to discover lots of evidence that material gains don’t really
lead to increased happiness. Fortunately, happiness research
doesn’t only give us bad news. It also identifies some highly effective
ways to increase our happiness. One of the biggest obstacles
to gaining happiness through material improvements is that,
after an initial happiness bump, our minds play a trick on us: they get quickly used to
our improved conditions, dropping our happiness back
down to its pre-bump level. Researchers call this
trick “hedonic adaptation,” and studies show that countering hedonic
adaptation is an important key to happiness. As Maya learns about all the practices
that counter hedonic adaptation, two of them in particular remind her of
things that her friend Kathy does. And Kathy is a very happy person. One of these practices is “savoring,” which is like “stepping outside” of
a good experience as you’re having it, to become more fully aware of and
appreciative of what it’s really like. It’s what Kathy did when she and Maya walked through
the park the last time they met. While Maya was busy wishing
the weather were warmer and worrying about
work deadlines, Kathy was soaking
up the spring sun, pointing out all the
blooming flowers, and stopping to watch
some baby squirrels play. Even weeks later, Kathy’s voice was
filled with joy as she recalled that day. Another practice Kathy does a lot is expressing gratitude for the
good things in her life. And not just for the big things,
like being alive and healthy. Kathy gives thanks even
for the small things like a good hair day, an interesting chat
with a store clerk or even the sighting
of baby squirrels. There was even one time when Kathy
and Maya were stuck in terrible traffic, and Kathy declared her appreciation
for having a car to drive and a friend to sit through traffic with. These expressions of gratitude
usually strike Maya as cheesy but she now acknowledges
the evidence that gratitude is another
powerful practice for countering hedonic adaptation
and boosting our happiness. Studies show that when people
do regular gratitude exercises, like writing about things they were
grateful for in the past week, they receive many many benefits. They feel happier about their lives
and more optimistic about their future. But they also feel fewer
physical ailments, make better progress
towards personal goals, and have better interpersonal
relationships. These are amazing results that
also boost happiness indirectly. A second major obstacle
to our happiness is how we’re always comparing
ourselves to others, often unreasonably. We watch TV, and then feel worse about
our less glamorous looks and lifestyle; we browse people’s social media feeds and
then wish we were doing what they’re doing. Once other people enter our view, it’s extremely difficult to avoid treating
them as reference points for comparison, especially if they seem better off. So the best strategy is to control who we
expose ourselves to in the first place or, if necessary, to redirect our attention. Maya’s always struggled with
unhealthy social comparisons, and she realizes this is another
way Kathy’s habits align well with research recommendations. Kathy’s never been
big on social media, and has always preferred
shows about people with more realistic
salaries, bodies, and lives, to say shows like The Real Housewives. And whenever Kathy does
fall into unhelpful comparisons, she’s able to notice it
and change her focus. Like when Kathy started
envying her coworker who’d gotten tickets to the sold-out
show of Kathy’s favorite band. As he raved about the show, Kathy shifted her attention to how
his exhaustion from the late night was causing embarrassing mistakes at work and how the expensive tickets meant he had
to eat Top Ramen for a whole month. Soon it didn’t seem as bad that
she’d missed out on the show. Maya appreciates the value
of Kathy's habits but they seem to demand a lot more
self-awareness and attention control than she can muster. So what’s Kathy’s secret? Well, after her high school counselor
told her that meditation relieves anxiety, Kathy decided to learn
mindfulness meditation. She began by sitting for
10-15 minutes every day, focusing on her breath, and noticing
when her mind wandered, so she could bring
it back into focus. Over time, she developed the ability
to notice and control her attention even in her everyday life. As Maya considers signing
up for a meditation group, she continues reviewing
happiness studies. She finally finds some
happiness practices that feel more
natural to her. For example, Maya already feels pretty comfortable
approaching life with a growth mindset rather than a fixed mindset. This is great because people
who adopt a growth mindset, who see their intelligence, character,
and other qualities as things they can cultivate
through hard work those people are usually happier than
people who adopt a fixed mindset who see their qualities
as set in stone. Even when something goes badly, people with a growth mindset
focus on how to grow from it. They focus on things they can control, which gives them a greater
sense of freedom and a greater ability
to achieve their goals. Maya’s been especially good at
keeping a growth mindset at work. Now she’s eager to apply it
more in her personal life too. But what most resonates with Maya are the studies showing that we can
significantly increase our happiness by performing acts of
kindness for others. Although she’s often distracted
by the stresses of her life, few things bring Maya more joy than when
she’s making other people’s lives better, whether that's with a smile,
a gift, or a shoulder to cry on. And so Maya knows where to start on her
empirically informed pursuit of happiness: Kathy’s favorite
band is on tour again, and Maya’s decided to surprise her
friend with two front row tickets! Which happiness practice fits you best? What step will you take next in
your pursuit of greater happiness?